Relationships

* Relationships are mysterious things.... Sometimes I start
wondering why do we even need it. Why can't we be
happy without it. Why do we always need a relationship to
keep us happy. It's like our happiness lies in relationships.
It's like someone else drives our life. :/
We are always in search of someone(well, if not always,
most of the times, for one reason or the other.) The
search may not actually be intentional and directed, but
our emotional state of mind is such that, it always wants
to connect to someone. That's where I start wondering as
to why can't we be content with ourselves! Ohh, it may
look weird for sure, for being happy with our own self
would surely be quite a insane looking idea. But then as
Osho says-
"Aloneness is beautiful. It has an elegance around it, a
grace, a climate of tremendous satisfaction. Aloneness is
SHEER independence. One feels as if one is one's whole
world, one's whole existence...."
Does it sound weird? :)
Well anyway, I was wondering how we keep going through
a cycle of varying relationships and the accompanying
emotional states. It seems so fascinating if you look at it
from a distance. We always seem to be in an emotional-
crisis-state, always looking out for some emotional solace
from others! If we don't get someone, we get
disheartened, and if we do get, then it gets so lively!
Curious thing is that it always keeps going in a perpetual
motion, never-ending cycle.
One thing that is quite worrying, is the discontentment
caused by relationships (or desire of it?). It always takes
us through such a roller-coaster kind of emotional ride.
Sometimes we get enlivened up after interacting with
someone, and sometimes we may even go in an
emotional black hole! Relationships affect our lives to
such a great extent that it virtually controls our
happiness. We get happiness from relationships. A good
relationship can be a great source of happiness for us.
Being with that someone special can bring immense joy in
our life. Relationships are always such a precious thing to
cherish.
But then relationships cause emotional pains too. Not
being able to be with someone, not being able to get
close to someone.... these can cause great discontent and
loneliness. We have our desires, our choices, our
aspirations, and we get disheartened if we are not able to
get into the desired relationships. It seems so worrying
how much discontent these issues can cause. And there
seem no way out to address this problem (is it really a
problem?).
Are relationships the problem, or are our desires the
problem? I am still wondering.....